Disposable People – Part 2 – Advantages of Staying Married

There are many advantages to staying together with our first love. The first benefit is for our children. The continuity of the family is a basic human need.

Children are encouraged that their own marriage will make it through the tough times, just like their parents did. Otherwise, they will develop a disposable mentality as well.

Staying married contributes to overall emotional, mental, spiritual, financial and physical health. It reduces the stress of starting over and the effects of grief, which divorce adds to our life.

Dating new people, while fun in some cases, is risky because everyone has baggage of some sort, visible and invisible. In a second marriage, we often spend more time with our spouse’s children than our own.

Therefore, do not get careless in your marriage; relax, but look, speak and act attractively for one another. Continue dating each other, even when the children come along. Enjoy your mate’s company.

When we and our spouse disagree, we can find a third alternative, on which we can both agree. If there is a seemingly unsolvable issue, get counseling to find an agreeable path.

We may need to take a break, to put a brief time or distance between each other in order to gain a new perspective on our relationship.

A separation for the purpose of reconciliation gives us a chance to talk about our disagreements with the freedom of having a safe place to go if tempers flare or we feel frustrated or unsafe.

We may find that we miss our spouse, the security they give to our life and little joys they bring to our everyday experiences, their laughter and support.

We can both agree to change habits which cause friction in our relationship. We can gain a better understanding of our spouse by talking intimately about each other’s honest feelings, needs and desires.

Forgiveness helps us to rekindle the love we once felt for each other. We will grow to admire, encourage, appreciate, cherish and serve one another all the days of our life, and we will stay together until death parts us.

Prayer:
Father God, remind us that our marriage vows were made to You as well as to our spouse. Prompt us to pray with our spouse, because You help us to resolve our issues. If we take turns praying, each partner praying one sentence at a time, this prevents much of the frustration of praying together. Teach us to pause and listen to You speak to us as we pray too.

Help us to bear one another’s burdens, to be long suffering with each other’s shortcomings, to encourage and build each other up and to enjoy one another’s company. Remind us why we fell in love in the first place and help us to keep the eternal flame of agape love burning.

Thought for the Day:
Love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins. – 1 Peter 4:8

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Free from the Ravages of Sin

Jesus delivers us from our sinful nature, which formerly served sin; and He gives us a mind, which is now a slave to God’s nature, principles, wisdom and Kingdom (Romans 7:25).

We are free from the law of sin and death, by the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:2). We daily live as a witness to others of the love and nurture of the eternal Godhead living within us (Romans 8:4).

Sin no longer has power over us, because of God’s grace ruling in our heart (Romans 6:14). As slaves of God, we are set free from the slavery to sin, in order to reap the blessings of holiness and eternal life (Romans 6:22).

God’s Spirit, who raised Christ from the dead, now lives within our body, and give us His life (Romans 8:11). We belong to Christ, who raised us from the dead, and now we bear fruit for God’s Kingdom (Colossians 3:3; Romans 7:4).

Christ lives in us, and we are united with Him, just as He is one with our Father (John 14:20; Colossians 1:27). We are joined to and united with God’s Spirit in the intimacy of a branch with a vine (1 Corinthians 6:17; John 15:4-5).

The Trinity’s divine power enables us to excel in our vocation, ministry, calling and family through God’s divine Spirit within us (Colossians 1:27). We also pray by the direction of God’s Spirit and petition Him for the needs of all of His Saints (Ephesians 6:18).

God’s Spirit will endow us with the courage to boldly share the gospel with everyone we meet. Not in a preachy or condemning manner, but in the spirit of love and peace with the words He gives us (Ephesians 6:19).

Prayer:
Father God, help us to actually see the reality of the fact that we do not need to sin; because the law of the spirit of life in Christ sets us free from the law of the spirit of sin and death (Romans 8:2). When Christ sets us free, we are truly free in every area of our life (John 8:36).

You teach us in Your Word that if we live by the dictates of our flesh, and give in to Satan’s temptations, we will surely die in our sin. Yet, if we live by Your Spirit, He enables us to resist temptation, and we will live in Your Kingdom as co-heirs with Christ forever (Romans 8:13; Galatians 5:15-25).

Thought for the Day:
Since the Son of God set us free, we are absolutely free to live in holiness – John 8:36; Romans 6:18

God Loves YOU

As humans, we search our whole life for love and acceptance. We seek it from our parents, spouse, children and even extramarital affairs. Some people will lie, cheat and wear masks to get love; and then lose it when they show their true colors. We use other people to gratify our own needs; and those attempting to gratify their needs, may abuse us.

We end up brokenhearted, callous, angry and bitter. The desire to love and to be loved is the most basic human need. What we fail to realize is just how deeply God loves each and every one of us. We are all special to Him, the apple of His eye (Psalm 17:8; Zechariah 2:8). He is big enough to care about every need that each of us will ever have. If we let Him, He spoils us as His precious children.

God crafted each of us as an original creation, and we are very special to God. Some are smart, others beautiful, or talented, creative, analytical, handy, artistic, etc. The main ingredient we all have is that we are loved by God (John 3:16-18). He does not love us for what we do, or who we are. He will never leave us for doing something stupid or bad (Romans 5:8). His love is unconditional.

God is our Father and He is interested in every detail of our life. He lives within authentic Believers by His Spirit and knows us better than we know our own self (John 14:23; Psalm 139:13-16; Matthew 10:30; 1 Corinthians 3:16). An intimate relationship is all that He desires from us, nothing more (Matthew 7:21-21). We love Him and give Him our devotion and obedience (John 14:15-31). His commands are never burdensome, but for our protection (John 5:3).

Prayer:
Father God, teach us to accept Your love for us and to give Your love to those You bring into our life. Help us to maintain peaceful and contented relationships with our family, friends neighbors and associates. Help us to love You more with each passing day and to devote everything we say, think and do for Your glory. Remind us to walk in Your love and to obey You with each moment of our life.

Thought for the Day:
God loves us and desires our love; and He gives us people in our life to love and to serve. – 1 John 4:7-21