Well-meaning friends and relatives often attempt to talk us out of our negative emotions in an effort to help us to feel better. However, this only causes us to suffer more acutely.
We feel misunderstood, unaccepted and invalidated. They want to help; but they complicate our issues, and we feel more alone than we did before they tried to support us.
Their perception of our issue is different than ours. They were not in the circumstance, so they cannot fully comprehend our viewpoint.
We can help one another more fully by listening and affirming each other’s feelings, rather than trying to help someone change their feelings.
We can also share a similar experience and how God taught us to deal with it, which may give them an idea on how to resolve their own issue.
Sometimes, Satan will tempt us to believe his lies, or to trust the feelings in our heart. This may cause us to reject God’s truth, which compounds our problems.
The Bible is clear in its assessment of such behavior. The heart is deceptive and often wicked. It will rarely steer us in the right direction (Jeremiah 17:9).
Our thoughts influence our feelings, and our feelings will direct our behavior. Therefore, it is imperative for us to think about the positive and find the root of our negative emotions (Philippians 4:8).
This is particularly difficult for people with a melancholy personality. We always see the glass half-empty. Yet, God’s Holy Spirit will replace our destructive tendencies with His fruit (Galatians 5:22-23).
Negative thoughts signal a need in our soul: a slight to mourn, forgiveness to grant, a need to meet, an idol to cast down, faulty thinking to correct, etc.
As we focus on the eternal, put temporal issues in Godly perspective, and take an inventory of our soul in order to meet our own needs, we find more peace and joy in life.
Father God, we often feel life’s issues with a depth of emotion, which is difficult to explain in words. People want to encourage us and help us to restore our joy, but they often come across as indifferent and uncompassionate.
Help us to comfort one another with Your love within us and to show patience and genuine concern. Remind us to view the issues of life from Your eternal perspective, rather than our limited earthly standpoint. Enable us to learn to laugh more and not to take our self or life so seriously.
Thought for the Day:
As we fully grieve our losses, we can change our focus and find the joy of the Lord regardless of our circumstances.