Understanding Our Soul – Part 2

Analyzing Transactions in Our Soul

Once we realize that our subconscious mind controls many of our thoughts, word and actions in our present life, we can come to God for healing of the wounds stored in that miraculous filing cabinet. The simplest and most efficient way to uncover the stored memories in our subconscious is to pay attention to the conversations in our mind.

We are not going crazy. These are not usually demonic voices or multiple schizophrenic personalities. These conversations are simply the interaction among our Inner Parent, Adult and Child (PAC). As we analyze these transactions or conversations, we soon see a pattern. We learn to identify the message, which our three ego states are trying to communicate to us.

We are usually so busy that we neglect our soul. Therefore, we need to make time to listen to these transactions. Keeping a journal is the easiest way to decipher what our subconscious mind is attempting to bring to our conscious mind. Once we learn to identify these messages, journaling will no longer be necessary, because we will readily recognize what our soul is telling us.

Start by asking questions such as:
1.) What is bothering me? The issue may be recent; however, sometimes we do not know the source of the issue, because it lies in our subconscious mind and has its roots in our past.

2.) When did this start? Maybe this is a recent issue, or it could have started in our infancy or youth. Looking at photo albums may give us clue to its origin, or accessing memories from our subconscious mind that God’s Spirit brings to our conscious mind. ( http://www.theophostic.com )

3.) Where did it start? At home, school, church, neighborhood. And with whom did it start? Parent, relative, neighbor, teacher, friend or our friend’s parent.

4.) Is the issue physical, emotional or psychological? Do we feel unwarranted shame or fear because of something someone said or did to us in the past? Does our negative self-talk come from things someone said to us and we believed? Did Satan plant a lie in our past that we believe, and which is fueling our negative health or feelings?

Our Inner Child may be reticent about divulging this information to us, especially if we neglected our soul all of our life. As we start to pay attention to our negative thoughts and feelings from now on, our subconscious will cooperate with God’s Spirit, as He brings these aspects to our conscious mind and heals us of the residual affects they have on our life.

Prayer:
Father God, there is nothing too difficult for You (Jeremiah 32:17, 27). You understand our thoughts and know our life from beginning to end (Psalm 139:13; Isaiah 46:10). You do not want Satan to use the words and actions from our past to cripple our present life. Give us the courage to come to You for clarity about these issues and healing from these wounds to our soul.

Thought for the Day:
It took a lifetime to program our subconscious mind to think, feel and react to life, and it may take some time for it to respond to the healing of God’s Spirit; have patience and give God your full attention during quiet spaces of reflection during your week.

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Health and Well Being – Part 2

God fashioned humans as a triune being: body, soul and spirit. He created our body from the dust of the ground, breathed into our spirit His breath of life and formed us into a living soul (Genesis 2:7). When our soul – our thoughts, choices and emotions – is neglected, it attempts to draw our attention to our legitimate needs, which require fulfillment.

If we neglect our needs, our Inner Child, which the Psalmist alluded to (Psalm 131:2), will make sure our body and spirit are also effected by this mental and emotional deprivation (Psalm 107:5-6). Mind-related illnesses cause our muscular, nervous, respiratory and vascular systems to break down. They are called psychosomatic illnesses. These have no physical cause or explanation.

Our dreams and negative emotions are two more avenues, which the soul uses to attempt to bring our needs to our conscious awareness. Our overall health depends on us heeding these messages. At times, as the psalmist realized, our soul is like a child and must be weaned (Psalm 131:2). If the Inner Child controls our thoughts, words and deeds, we never grow up.

Alternately, many of us work all day long to provide for the needs of other people and neglect our own needs. God created us to care for our own needs as well (Mark 12:31). This is not selfish unless our whole focus is on our self, or if we care for our self to the detriment of others. God’s Spirit will lead us into a healthy balance of nurturing our self and others.

Prayer:
Father God, remind us that we can give our soul a wholesome treat every day! Walking in nature, a healthy snack, chatting with close friends, hobbies, reading Your Word, writing a letter or email, relaxing in the sun and nurturing a garden are just a few healthy choices. Help us to discover what makes our thoughts and emotions happy. We want to make Godly choices, which meet our needs and to help us to nurture others as well.

Thought for the Day:
If we neglect our soul, we are only 2/3 of a person! If we do not nurture our soul, one whole third of our self is crippled.

Our True Treasure

Psalm 131:1-3 are some of my favorite verses in the Bible. They speak about our soul – our thoughts, choices and feelings, which is often overlooked in the Christian walk. Popular in our culture today is the concept of the Inner Child. Some mental health professionals deny the reality of the Inner Child, but just as many promote the existence of this ego state.

In these verses, David confirms the certainty of our soul with an Inner Child. Prior to our salvation, our Inner Child is often in control of our life. We are swayed by the desires of our flesh, and we do whatever feels good. Once we accept Christ, the old nature is dead in Christ (Galatians 2:20; Colossians 3:4). We no longer find fulfillment in a sinful lifestyle. God is our exceeding joy (Psalm 43:4, 149:4).

Our soul, including our Inner Child, now finds true contentment, which comes from God alone, regardless of our circumstances. David realized that the lust of the eye, the lust of the flesh and the pride of life (1 John 2:16) would get him nowhere in this life. David certainly was not arrogant, but he did desire the attention and approval of others, just like the rest of the human race.

We want respect and validation from those who mean the most to us. Yet, at times, this can border on pride. David deliberately discarded pride (Psalm 131:1). He found peaceful gratification in his relationship with the Lord. In the silences, which David enjoyed with our God, his peace returned to him, even when Saul pursued him. He found pleasure in God as his true treasure (Psalm 16:11).

Prayer:
Father God, You rejoice over us with singing (Zephaniah 3:17). Help us to find serenity, joy and contentment of soul in You. Remind us that nothing this world offers equals to what You give us through Your mercy and grace. We want to tell the world what you mean to us. Give us daily opportunities to be a friend in order to win a soul to Your love. Take pleasure in us as we hope in Your steadfast love (Psalm 147:11).

Thought for the Day:
Our delight is always in the Lord, because we find our true pleasure and fulfillment in our Lord alone. – Psalm 37:4

Childlike Faith

God made mankind in His image and likeness (Genesis 1: 26). God is a triune being…Father, Son and Spirit. He created us as triune beings with a Spirit, Soul and Body. Genesis 2: 7 states, “And the LORD God formed man (body) of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life (spirit); and man became a living soul.”

Due to Adam’s sin, our spirit is dead within us at birth, until we ask Jesus Christ to be our Savior. Then the Holy Spirit breathes the breath of life into us and our spirit is redeemed. We cannot truly live integrated, connective lives until we are Born Again. Our body is our physical being that ends up in the grave at our death.

Our soul is our mind, will and emotions. Our mind is renewed into the mind of Christ (Romans 12:2), our will is submitted to the will of God (Philippians 2:13) and our emotions are controlled by the Spirit of God who dwells within us (James 1:19). Our soul also contains our Inner Child, Inner Parent and Inner Adult.

David spoke of the Inner Child of the soul when he stated in Psalm 131:2 , “Instead, I have calmed and quieted myself, like a weaned child who no longer cries for its mother’s milk. Yes, like a weaned child is my soul within me.” So often, we lose the innocence of childhood and adopt a prideful and rebellious mindset.

As we grow up in this life, we surround our self with defense mechanisms to prevent others from perpetrating their sins on us. We mature quickly and develop strong emotions, which we use to protect our self. Unless we nurture that childlike aspect of our soul, and allow the faith and unfettered trust of a child to reign in our hearts, we cannot fully please God (Matthew 18:3).

Prayer:
Lord Jesus, help us to remember that in order for You to fulfill our soul, we first need to be filled by Your Spirit. Our spirit must be born again by asking You to be our Savior and our Lord (2 Peter 3:18). Then, our Inner child will feel more secure, and adopt that childlike faith, which You desire from each of us.

Thought for the Day:
Unless we are Born Again and become as little children, we have no hope of entering the kingdom of heaven. – Matthew 18:3

Why Did I Do That?

Why Did I Do That?

Have you ever told your self not to do something and then did it anyway? Did you ever buy a dessert and plan to eat it a little each day and then end up eating it all in one sitting? Do you ever catch yourself saying or doing something exactly the way your parent did? Do we have multiple personalities? Why can’t we get it together?

There is a reason we do this, and the solution is simple. Humans are a triune being – body, soul and spirit; and we have multiple ego states within our soul – Inner Parent, Inner Child and Inner Adult. Our goal in life is for these three ego-states to make peace with one another and then to positively affect our body, soul and spirit.

Start to analyze the conversations you have with your self. You will soon see a distinct pattern: Childish desires, Parental restrictions or permissiveness, and a rational Adult attempting to make peace between the two. It is important to consider your Inner Child’s need to play and have treats, as well as to train your Inner Parent to nurture your Inner Child and not to be demeaning and restrictive or permissive and distant.

I had to go to the library to borrow books on how to be a nurturing parent to learn how to nurture. You may not have role models for this either and may benefit from reading some books. Our thought processes fluidly fluctuate between one ego-state to another. Pay attention to what you need and meet that need in wholesome and appropriate ways.

We commonly look to other people to read our mind and to nurture us and to provide needed parameters around our life. However, we do not need anyone else to help us to be a fulfilled individual. The goal is to become a connected human being with all three ego-states functioning in cooperation with one another and with the Spirit of God. God does this in us with one inner healing at a time.

Prayer:
Father God, You call us to love others as we love our self (Mark 12:31). Yet, we forget to love our self. Help us to treat our self with kindness, interest, nurture and cherishing. Remind us to take our self seriously and to meet our own needs, or to trust You to meet them for us, and to discipline any area in us that is in disobedience to Your Word. This will keep us from overly indulging or from belittling and demeaning our self and others. Let Your light shine within us and affect every area of our life.

Thought for the Day:
Analyzing the transactions going on among our three ego-states will free us from having to look to others to meet our needs.

(If you have questions or would like more information, email me at:
kathleenbrdly@gmail.com )