Healing from Abusive Behavior – Part 1

Abuse, even a one-time moment of rage that used abuse as punishment or an attempt to control the victim, robs us of our innocence and makes us feel powerless over our own life.

It drives us into a codependent role – attempting to please others to keep them from abusing us. The problem with this faulty thinking is that it often has the opposite effect.

People tend to continue to abuse our good nature, take us for granted and treat us with contempt. A lack of appreciation and more verbal, mental and physical abuse may follow.

We strive throughout our life to lay down our life in hopes that someone will love us; but we actually teach them that it is okay to take advantage of us, because we constantly put our needs last.

Trauma does not always make us stronger. It may also make us a ball of nerves, fear and insecurity. We are actually weaker, because we are always on the defensive.

We may develop PTSD, much like any survivor of a battle zone, and react to life with this fractured thinking and behavior. Medication may be necessary to help us to remain calm and lucid until God heals us.

Journaling helps us to heal by allowing our Inner Parent to understand the deep wounds we experienced and to nurture our Inner Child as we turn our words into a prayer for God’s healing.

Prayer:
Father God, I pray for victims of abuse of every type. Give them the deep comfort that can only come from Your love. Restore to them their joy in life and remove from them the fears and insecurities, which plague their life. Redeem their heart and mind and give them a new outlook on life.

Teach them that although people may not be trustworthy, You are always trustworthy. Help us to remain vulnerable and kind, yet wary and wise (Matthew 10:16). Show us the balance between serving others without teaching them to take us for granted by always putting our needs last.

Thought for the Day:
God’s perfect goodness and love find expression in the midst of wickedness and degradation; because He experiences every slight right along with us and carries our pain and burden for us, if we will relinquish it to Him.

Help My Unbelief

A father brings his son to Jesus. The boy has a mute spirit and experiences epileptic-type seizures. He believes Jesus can heal his son; yet because the disciples already failed to do so, he is afraid to try again. He asks Jesus for help with his unbelief (Mark 9:23-25).

We all feel this way sometimes. We know what the Word of God says, what preachers tell us, and what our friends share with us; yet, we still have such little faith!

Through this tiny verse God shows His humor and mercy in the same breath! He teaches us that the important aspect is to choose to believe, even when circumstances cause us to feel uncertain.

God understands that we lose hope and get discouraged. So, God put this powerful verse in the Bible to remind us that as long as we choose to believe, then He will do the rest.

Prayer:
Lord, we want to walk in obedience, trusting in Your promises and doing greater works than Jesus did (John 14:12). We believe in You; yet, at times, our faith is weak. Thank You for helping our unbelief, and for providing for all of our spiritual, physical and emotional needs.

We praise You day and night for Your wonderful works and multitude of blessings to the Your children. You do so much for us and take such an active roll in the details of our life. Thank You for caring enough to give Your life for our redemption and salvation.

Thought for the Day:
Hearing from God often requires that we find a quiet place to still our thoughts and focus on His presence in our life.

The Inner Child – Part 1 – Who Is Our Inner Child?

Psychologists today are recognizing the influence our Inner Child has over our life. The Inner Child is that part of our self, which developed since birth and will always remain in our soul as part of our personality. The distorted memories of our Inner Child, stored in the subconscious mind, affect every part of our life.

The wounded Inner Child uses immature body and verbal language, throws temper tantrums, is overly sensitive, acts and feels helpless, hurt, guilt-ridden, inadequate, unlovable, and a victim. This ego state is needy, deprived, impatient, rebellious, manipulative, and has unrealistic expectations in life.

By acting in a temperamental or unreasonable manner, our wounded Inner Child may cause irritable, angry and critical reactions in others. This Inner Child is fearful and insecure about many issues in life, and does not want to integrate with our Inner Adult and Inner Parent. This part of our self is very vulnerable and needs to feel cherished and included in our daily decisions.

Some people believe that as adults we put away childish things, but Jesus said we will not enter the Kingdom of Heaven unless we become as a little child (). As doctors realize, we cannot put away and ignore our Inner Child without detriment to our self mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The more we nurture this part of our self, the more joyful and fulfilled we will feel.

The healthy Inner Child is unrestricted, instinctive, spontaneous, creative, inventive, resourceful, imaginative, emotional, gullible, hopeful, fun-loving, tolerant of others, and wants to please everyone and to be loved. This healthy ego state will find ways to cooperate, be flexible, and prefer other people above our self.

As we spend quiet time analyzing the conversation going on in our mind, we will recognize the transactions which come from our Inner Child. We begin to understand some of the underlying issues that contribute to our present feelings, and which are currently creating unhealthy behavioral patterns in our life. Our Inner Child holds the keys to the healing of our soul.

Prayer:
Father God, as we read the Bible, converse with You, submit to Christ’s sanctifying work within us and walk in Your Holy Spirit every day, these haunting, negative issue stored in our subconscious mind will surface to our conscious mind. Then Your Spirit will speak Your truth and deliver us from the bondage to our past. Thank You for transforming our mind, replacing our negative personality traits with the fruit of Your Spirit and conforming us to the image of Christ, who abides within us by Your Spirit.

Thought for the Day:
As we submit our subconscious thoughts to the Holy Spirit, He will reveal Satan’s lies, which are holding us in bondage to these past, unresolved issues.