About kathleenbrdly

When I was 18, God saved me from the depths of a life of melancholic obsessions. He gradually replaced my carnal nature with the nature of Christ and I daily wait on the leading of His Spirit to direct me in the will of God for my day. As a Pastor's wife and blogger I have a multitude of opportunities to disciple and mentor people who care about what God is teaching me. I invite anyone interested to join me in Growing in Christ...kat

A Good Marriage – A Joyful Life

In the identical manner in which God loved Jesus, Jesus loves us. He wants us to remain in His love by keeping God’s laws, just as He remains in Our Father’s love by keeping them (John 1:9-10).


We celebrate God’s unconditional love for us, and we love others with this same love. We provide a safe place for hurting people, a place where grace is always present. Misjudged, desolate, shattered people will flock to our fellowship.


When we learn to love our mate as Christ loves His Bride, we will live a joyful life (John 1:11-12). We totally surrender to God’s will for our life and we walk in His ways. This enables us to put one another first, and to serve each other with Agape love.


We do not need to earn God’s love or prove that we deserve it. God gives it to everyone as a free gift; so we love our mate with this same type of love, considering his or her needs above our own.


We give God and our mate our whole heart, never wavering from our commitment to one another, even when conflicts arise. This makes us resilient through our misunderstandings and differences of opinions and direction.


We can also write each other frequent love notes via cards, emails, texts and messages. I’ve known wives who write a love note in lipstick on the bathroom mirror and husbands who have flowers or a live plant with a card delivered to their wife at work.


Making time for one another will insulate our love during negative issues and disagreements. As we pray together for God’s will in every situation, He always leads us to an equitable solution that we can both support.



Father God, teach us that if someone wins, someone else has to lose. It is only when we seek Your will together that we both win. Help us to discover the resolution to our issues as we prayerfully work together. When we consider one another’s thoughts, feelings and needs, we are much more willing to compromise.


Help us to see that keeping our issues private, rather than airing them out to any willing listener or on social media, is of paramount importance. You make it clear that divorce is not in Your will for us, so help us to stay in love by putting each other’s needs first. Give us words of encouragement for one another, and teach us to view our life impartially rather than one-sidedly.


Thought for the Day:

Our attitude and philosophy of life will influence our feelings of love for one another; so keeping a positive attitude will make it easier to see life from our mate’s point-of-view. – Philippians 4:8



God Values Us

We are even more valuable to our Heavenly Father than the birds of the air or the flowers in the fields. They trust our faithful God for their provision and life, and so can we (Matthew 6:26).


God loves us so much that absolutely nothing can separate us from that love (Romans 8:38). We can break our fellowship with Him by grieving Him through our thoughts, words or actions, but His love is unconditional.


Human relationships change over the years. We get more comfortable with each other, we take one another for granted and our perspective and purposes in life change. A quiet void often replaces the passionate love that once characterized the union.


We “fall out of love” with our mate, and we think we need a new one. Yet, the same scenario happens in every relationship. Commitment to one person for a lifetime – even through the thick and the thin – is God’s ordained plan for us.


Of course, the real problem does not lay at the feet of our mate, but is within our own heart. We have unresolved conflicts in our own soul, and we blame significant others in our life for causing them.


Our soul is sick, and we need our Great Physician to heal us from the inside out. At some time in our past, people treated us like we did not matter, that our opinion and feelings were not valuable, and we had no say-so in decisions that affected our life.


God cares about every pain from our past, and we can find healing under the shadow of His wings (Psalm 91:4). He nurtures, encourages and sustains us through every trial – we are victorious because the Victorious One abides within us.



Father God, remind us that at the root of every unresolved conflict in our soul is a lie from Satan, which he planted in every negative issue that we ever experienced. As we sit quietly in Your presence, Your reveal to us Your truth about the matter. Help us to use the Serenity Prayer to make peace with our past: we pray for You to give us wisdom, so that we can change what we can, and turn the rest over to You to resolve.


Your love for us is four-dimensional. It has width, depth, height and length, which surrounds us on every side (Ephesians 3:18). By focusing on the people who do not love us unconditionally, we are giving them power over our life that they do not deserve. Through Christ in us, we can forgive them for their human foibles, revel in God’s love and acceptance, and walk in the Spirit each moment of our day.


Thought for the Day:

Jesus can relate to every pain we feel, because He too was wounded for our transgressions, was despised and rejected by the people in His life, and was a man of many sorrows and acquainted with grief.

– Isaiah 53:3-4; John 1:11; Matthew 26:67


Reaping Spiritual Rewards

God loves every person ever conceived. In fact, He knew us before He knit us together in our mother’s womb (Psalm 139:16). He has a perfect plan for each of us, and He wants to be our Heavenly Father.


God is a triune being: Father, Son and Spirit. God proved His love for us by taking on the form of a human being as Jesus Christ. Then, He dwelt on earth for 33 years, before sacrificing His own life to pay the penalty of our sins for us (John 3:16).


Now He abides in us by His Spirit. As Spirit, He comforts us, and gives us His wisdom for each moment of our day. God gives us His peace, joy and fullness of life both now and for eternity (John 14:27).


Our loving Father reveals His purpose for our life as we seek His will for each and every day, and He gives us the power to walk in His plans for each moment of it.


Sin separates us from fellowship with God and forces us to walk alone; however, repentance restores our relationship with the Almighty. He never leaves us nor forsakes us, regardless of our mindset (Hebrews 13:5).


Christ in us allows us to walk in the anointing of His Spirit and to obey the truth of His Word. He gives us an abundance in every good thing as we walk in His ways (2 Corinthians 9:8).


Our ministry for the Lord is a work of faith and a labor of love (1 Thessalonians 1:3). He encourages us not to be slothful, but diligent in furthering His Kingdom on the earth (Hebrews 6: 12, 15).


First, we seek the Lord’s face and His strength, and He provides His favor and support throughout our sojourn on this earth (Psalm 105:4-5). As we walk in the Spirit, He directs our hearts into the love of God and eventually takes us Home to our reward (2 Thessalonians 3:5, Matthew 5:10; John 14:3; 1 Corinthians 3:8; 2 Timothy 4:8; Philippians 3:20-21).



Father God, we are so grateful that Your Holy Spirit strengthens us with all might according to Your glorious power. Remind us to walk in patience as we discipline our soul to follow after You with the intensity of a deer searching for and panting after a cool stream (Colossians 1:11; Luke 21:19; Psalm 42:1-2).


Thank You for Your Word, which is profitable to us for teaching, correction, encouragement in righteous living, and for completing us and equipping us for the work, which You call us to do. We also learn from its pages, the example of our forefathers/mothers in the faith, who have already reaped their reward in You (Hebrews 10:36, 12:1-3; Revelation 1:9).


Thought for the Day:

Our patience is extremely necessary in our walk with the Lord, because of the setbacks we encounter along life’s way; however, as we persevere, we shall reap the spiritual rewards of our labors.

– James 1:3-4, 5:7-11; Galatians 6:9; Revelation 14:12


Scattering the Seeds of the Gospel

Have you ever gotten discouraged, because you see little fruit from your spiritual labors? I have…I lift Jesus up so that He can draw everyone to Himself; and yet they walk away unchanged.


Of course, I question myself when they refuse to believe in Jesus: Am I failing God in some way? Am I harboring some secret sin? Am I lacking in devotion and focus? I grill myself endlessly with these and many other questions.


My husband is a Pastor, and we often wonder how we can change our ministry, or add something that we are missing, in order to be more effective for God’s Kingdom.


God pointed out to him that the sower scattered the seed as God intended Him to do, but only one-fourth of that seed fell on tilled, fertile soil. That means that three-fourths of the seed, which he broadcasted, bore no fruit at all.


This realization took a great deal of striving out of our life, because “unless the Lord builds the house, we labor in vain” (Psalm 127:1). We also studied the life of Jesus and realized that He, as God incarnate, had very little success in drawing people to eternal life.


The multitudes that He preached to actually walked away from Him without repenting (John 6:67). Jesus even questioned His disciples, “Will you leave me also?”


However, they experienced the life-giving qualities of Jesus on a daily basis; and they knew without a doubt that only He, as God personified, held the words of eternal life (John 6:68).


My husband and I daily attempt to walk by the direction of God’s Spirit, and to use His courage in us to approach friends, family,  and even strangers in the store or on the street with an encouraging word that God loves them and has a perfect plan for their life (Ephesians 2:10).



Father God, You call us to speak truth, but the results are not our responsibility. ThankYou for giving us Your boldness to offer to pray, right in the aisles of the department store, for perfect strangers who give us their permission to take their burdens, needs and concerns to You. Only You possess all of the issues of life in Your hands (Colossians 1:17).


You hold us accountable for allowing You to work through us to save the lost in this desperate and dying world all around us (Ezekiel 3:18). Help us to hear Your Spirit’s direction and to willingly submit to Your will for each moment of our life. We give You the praise and the glory for all that You accomplish in and through our life.


Thought for the Day:

We never know whether or not the stranger that God directs us to speak to, or our neighbor, or even a family member is ready with fertile, tilled soil to receive the seed of the Gospel; but we joyfully broadcast the truth to everyone we meet, in order to give them a chance to share with us in the blessings of God’s Kingdom.

The Power of God’s Holy Spirit


Jesus went back to Heaven in order to send His Holy Spirit to dwell in the spirit of every authentic Believer (John 14:12, 15-17). The Spirit transforms us, renews our spirit, and purifies our soul – our thoughts, emotions and choices.


Due to our true conversion through Jesus Christ, God’s divine power infuses our entire body, soul and spirit with whatever we need to accomplish His will for our day. We gain a personal intimacy with Him by His own glory and excellence.


The Spirit of God fills us with His righteousness, peace, joy and power to walk in God’s will every moment of the day (Ephesians 1:19-20). Jesus and His Spirit are both our advocates to help us now and throughout eternity.


We never want to follow the rules made by mankind that require ungodly commitments, virtuous self-denial and harsh bodily discipline, because they provide no help in conquering our carnal desires (Colossians 2:22-23).


The more we fall in love with Jesus, the less we attempt to live a successful life through the power of our human efforts. We discover that this is futile at best, and totally unfulfilling regardless of how much of this world’s fame and fortune that we accumulate.


As we allow God’s Spirit to fill us, we have the power and anointing to accomplish everything that God preordained for us to do (2 Peter 1:3). We no longer listen to Satan’s lies that we are not “good enough”.


We rejoice in the facts that, through Christ in us, we are holy and unconditionally loved by our Heavenly Father, we are already justified through the blood of Jesus, and we are daily being sanctified by God’s Holy Spirit.


God’s Spirit fits into our life so completely that people cannot tell us apart. He is in us, and He works through us. If we will totally surrender to Him, He will control our thoughts, words and deeds and keep us in the center of God’s Will for us.



Father God, before You intervened in our life, our soul suffered greatly, because our spirit was dead in our sinful nature. You made us alive with Jesus and forgave not only our sinful nature that we inherited from our first parents, but also all of our inherent sins as human beings (). You blotted out our transgressions of Your ways by nailing them to Calvary’s cross (Colossians 2:13-14).


You also removed the power from the spiritual rulers and authorities that formerly ruled over our life. Jesus shamed them by His victory over them, as He made a public spectacle of them. We now have no condemnation (Romans 8:1-2). Thank You for holding Your whole Body together with all of it various parts, and for nourishing us so that we may do our part in Your service (Colossians 2:16 & 19).


Thought for the Day:

As we enter God’s rest, then worry, stress, strife and adversity fade away; nothing can ever separate us from God’s love which is ours through the sacrifice that Jesus made for us on Calvary’s cross. – Romans 8:35-39; Hebrews 4:10



A Fruitful Harvest

Once we come to Christ for salvation from our sinful lifestyle and its consequences, God’s Holy Spirit gradually sanctifies us from one stage of glory to the next (2 Corinthians 3:18).


He replaces the carnal aspect of our soul – our thoughts, emotions and choices – with His spiritual fruit:

Hatred with love

Depression with true joy

Discontentment with peace

Irritation with patience

Criticism with gentleness

Backbiting with goodness

Pride with meekness

Excess with self-control

Worry with the faith of God


What do these spiritual fruit mean?

Love – affection for others

Joy – exuberance about life

Peace – serenity

Patience – willingness to stick with it

Gentleness – compassion from the heart

Goodness – kindness that pervades our entire being

Meekness – humility and service

Self-Control – guided by the Spirit

Faith – trust that God knows what He’s doing


As we view these traits filling our soul, we know that our spiritual maturity is increasing and our carnality is decreasing (John 3:30). Serving one another with God’s love enables us to meet each other’s needs more freely.


God’s Spirit teaches us to consider another’s feelings and needs before we make our decisions, and to work toward a compromise in every disagreement (Matthew 5:5, 9).


Changing to a positive focus allows us to minimize our destructive attitude toward another’s flaws, weaknesses and negative character. God replaces our pride with His humility (Matthew 5:3).


We have more mercy and compassion on others, because we see our own short-comings with clarity. If we allow Him to do so, the Holy Spirit will control and guide every moment of our life.


God’s fruit impacts every aspect of our life. We feel more peaceful, joyful and fulfilled within; and we get along better with our spouse, family, co-workers, associates, church members and community (Matthew 5:6).



Father God, please remind us that as we forgive the slights and meanness toward us (Matthew 5:7), encourage one another more, and show gratitude for even the smallest kindness, thoughtfulness or caring act, then we learn to cherish each other; and our intimacy between us and You, as well as with other people increases.


Serving one another with Your love enables us to meet each other’s needs more freely. You teach us to consider another’s feelings and needs before we make our decisions, and to work toward a compromise in every disagreement (Matthew 5:5, 9). We want to learn to support each other during periods of outward crisis and peril, lies and rejection, discouragement and defeat (Matthew 5:10).


Thought for the Day:

Many of the reactions we receive from others are caused by our own attitude or behavior toward them; we trigger or inflict a wound in their soul, and they defend their self or attack us in response; however, when we allow God’s Spirit to take the ascendency in our life and attitude, we are salt and light in this dark, hurting world (Matthew 5:13-14).

We Live by Faith

No matter what we accomplish in this life, something is always lacking. We never feel totally fulfilled, because we have no competence without God (2 Corinthians 3:5-6).


Our power is limited in this earthly realm, unless we are endued with power from on high as Jesus was. This is possible for us, because as authentic Believers, Jesus abides in our spirit (Colossians 1:11).


By God’s grace, we excel in His calling for our life (1 Corinthians 15:10). Our faith is not based on human reasoning, but on the power of God through the faith of the Son of God who loves us and gave Himself for us (1 Corinthians 2:5; Galatians 2:20).


It is interesting that the more intimately we are acquainted with God, and the more our heart is centered on Him, the fewer friends we have, and the less fellowship we enjoy with people around us (2 Corinthians 12:15).


However, God gives us His patience and joy in every circumstance we experience. His character, mercy and grace is mightily worked into our personality (Colossians 1:29; 1 Timothy 1:14; Hebrews 4:16), and we live in total fulfillment because of Christ in us (Colossians 1:27).



Father God, You make us strong, so that we may face the fiery trials of life on this earth (Hebrews 11:34). Remind us that when we partake in Christ’s suffering, His glory is revealed in us, and this makes our joy complete (1 Peter 4:13-14).


Help us to rely on You each moment of our day, rather than to face the issues of life from our meager human resources. We depend on Your mercy and grace to see us through each day, and we resolve to do only Your will for us during every moment we live (Ephesians 2:10).


Thought for the Day:

As Jesus abides in our spirit, we can do anything, which He calls us to perform, because He gives us the wisdom, power and guidance we need to accomplish His will with our life.