We all have a boundary around our lives (Psalm 139:16). God formed us in our mother’s womb, sustained us through every event in our life, and walks with us through the valley of the shadow of death (Psalm 23).
On this day, we will pass through the veil of death into the presence of God. When we take our last breath of this earthly air, we take our next breath in the celestial atmosphere of heaven.
Losing a loved one is the most debilitating and devastating experience anyone can ever go through. This grief extends beyond words and engulfs our body, soul and spirit. Often we find no solace in our grief.
No word of comfort, no gesture of concern and no card or flower can lighten our burden of anguish. Grief is a natural process, which has no exact time frame and is experienced in unique ways by different individuals.
Feeling the pain of grieving is difficult, but it is an important step toward healing. When viewed as loss, there is no solace in death. However, when viewed as our Homecoming, we find comfort and even joy.
Death is actually the doorway to our ultimate healing with no more sorrow or sickness. Rather than focusing on our loss, we can focus on the time we had together, and the person their love helped us to become.
We find comfort in God’s love and in His strength to continue on in our journey. He has a special plan for our life that does not include our loved one. He will reveal it to us one step at a time. He nurtures and comforts our heart and soul as we look to Him one moment at a time.
Father God, thank You for the time we shared with our loved one. Remind us that we never need to stop loving the one that is no longer with us. The death of a child through a miscarriage or illness is the hardest trial for us to bear, but Your love comforts us in any loss. You will teach us to cherish our memories of our loved one for the rest of our life, and they will enhance our future relationships because of the love we shared.
When some of our memories cause a stab of emotional or physical pain now and then, remind us that these fleeting moments are a normal part of the grieving and healing process, even when they happen on and off for years or never go away. Help us to realize that it is important to allow our self to have these feelings rather than to deny them, cover them up with busyness, or bury them deep in our soul. Teach us to feel the sadness fully and then to let it go.
Thought for the Day:
Loving again can feel like disloyalty at first, especially when we think about enjoying a life that does not include our loved one; however, this is far from true, because our loved one would want us to live a full and happy life even though they cannot be here to share it with us.
Ideas to make the transition of loss less painful:
- Make a keepsake box full of treasured photos or mementos of our relationship with our deceased loved one.
- Visit a special place we enjoyed together, and allow the joy of those good memories to wash over our soul.
- Set a special plate for them on holidays and birthdays and chat with family and friends about good memories.
- Write our loved one a letter, or visit their grave and tell them how we are feeling.
- Allow our self to cry, because tears wash away the grief. It is important to realize that we can cherish a memory without getting trapped there.
- Cherish the memories without allowing our loss to control us; and find joy in our new experiences, as we take comfort in the knowledge that we will keep our cherished memories with us wherever we go, and whatever we do, and with whomever we do them.
- Gain comfort and courage from God’s Word with verses such as:
- Psalm 116:15 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints. NKJV
- Psalm 48:14 For this is God, Our God forever and ever; He will be our guide even to death. NKJV
- Proverbs 14:32 Even in death the righteous have a refuge. NIV
- Ecclesiastes 7:1 A good name is better than fine perfume, and the day of death better than the day of birth. TLB
- Psalm 16:9-11 Heart, body, and soul are filled with joy. For you will not leave me among the dead; you will not allow your beloved one to rot in the grave. You will let me experience the joys of life and the exquisite pleasures of your own eternal presence. TLB
- 2 Corinthians 5:8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. KJV
- Luke 20:36 And they never die again; in these respects they are like angels, and are sons of God, for they are raised up in new life from the dead. TLB
- Luke 16:22 So it was that the beggar died, and was carried by the angels to Abraham’s bosom. KJV