Suffering from abuse causes devastation throughout our lifetime. We agonize over and grieve the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual side-effects that putrefy our existence on every level. These issues can even cause complicated medical problems.
To hide our shame, we develop perfectionist practices to stay safe, and we have control issues in an attempt to prevent any further abuse. In order to feel normal and accepted, we dive into a codependent lifestyle, which robs us of our independence and autonomy.
We actually end up abusing our self further, because we are so busy serving others that we ignore and neglect our own needs. We look to others to meet our needs, but they are too busy or enveloped in their own life to help us.
If we attempt to share the secret of our abuse, most people, especially family, refuse to believe us. However, when we do share our secret – in spite of our fears of repercussions, we are no longer a victim, and our abuser loses his/her power over us.
Our subconscious mind will often invite physical illness as a way to eradicate the effects of our ordeal. Chemicals in our food, toiletries and environment also cause physical ailments; but at times, illness is a manifestation of the trauma and grief, which we carry from our past.
Stress, anxiety and perfectionism deplete our adrenal glands, which cause further physical, mental and emotional complications. Stopping this rat race enables us to prevent future physical, mental and emotional impediments.
It is important to realize that we are not damaged and flawed by our past. In Christ, we are a new creation. He takes our pain and our sins and nails them to Calvary’s cross. Now, we have new life in Him (2 Corinthians 5:17).
Jesus’ completed work (Colossians 2:10) helps us to deny the past its control over our future. We start to count our blessings and feel gratitude for God’s provision in our spirit, body, and soul – our thoughts, choices and emotions.
As we allow our self to actually feel our feelings, we can gain a new perspective on our past. Those events no longer define who we are (Colossians 1:27; Galatians 2:20). Once we decide to break free from those chains of bondage, we can trust God’s Holy Spirit.
He gives us the victory over sin, sickness and destruction, which our former life forced on us. The key to full healing is to realize that we are no longer victims of our past. Jesus took our pain and sorrow, and nailed it on the cross with Him.
Father God, we know that You will take revenge on our perpetrators in Your own timing and way; and if we refuse to forgive them, we are only hurting our self. We do not want to live in poor health, because it only hinders our service to You. Therefore, we thank You for helping us to release our pain and trauma to You, and for allowing Jesus to set us free from the past (John 8:36), and to give us a promising future (Jeremiah 29:11).
As we garner the courage from You to face our past head on, we can admit that we were harmed and damaged. Then we can start on our healing journey to wholeness. Your love covers a multitude of sin that was forced on us by people who were supposed to protect us. Help us to forgive them, even though we can never excuse what they did to us, and to leave justice in Your capable hands.
Thought for the Day:
When we are drowning in grief from life’s trauma’s, it is better to allow our self to rise to the surface, rather than to panic and fight our way to the top; our healing is more available to us when we go ahead and accept the fact that even though we never received the admission of guilt from our abusers, God knows the truth and will bring retribution in His way and time.